At one point in my life, my definition of happiness would have been the person that had everything they want. On television and in movies they always looked happy. Most media outlets portrayed them as being happy and everyone else seemed to agree with my opinion. Now I am much older, more traveled, been exposed to many different people and have accomplished a lot of my original material goals. I have changed my original opinion.
The magazine Psychology Today sent a survey to 52,000 people asking them to respond and tell them how they believed they would find happiness. Most of the respondents said they dreamed of winning the lottery and it would fulfill their happiness. Lets take a look at one story of a lottery winner. A Pennsylvania resident won eight million dollars. Within a year his wife left him, winning alimony and child support that would cost him one million dollars; his landlady sued him for 30% of the winnings and won in court; his brother and sister in-law were indicted and imprisoned for trying to hire someone to kill him. I don’t know about you but that doesn’t sound much like happiness. The truth about the lottery is most of the winners end up bankrupt financially and end up bankrupt in their happiness account.
I know someone reading this is saying, “I would still like to have everything I want and find out for myself”. I understand, I use to feel the same way when I read or heard “dumb” 🙂 people say the things I am saying. Needless to say, that doesn’t change the facts. Don’t get me wrong, money will eliminate some of life’s annoyances but money does not fill the void where happiness lies. We all know a person or have heard about celebrities that have everything that life could offer but are so miserable that they end up destroying themselves. Did you know that the number one profession for suicide is psychologist? Why? Because they have seen and heard the depravity of the human heart.
You see happiness has the same middle-english root happ, which is also found in the word happening. In other words, happiness depends on what happens. We are happy if certain things happen to use; if they do not then our happiness vanishes like mist. Isn’t it ironic that the middle letter in happiness is I. Our state of happiness revolves around I, me, and my.
- Whats going to happen to me?
- Whats going to happen to my family?
- What is wrong with my kids?
- What if I don’t succeed?
- I wish my spouse would understand me!